Even creepier virginity fetishism

A Japanese company made…well…this…

[A] virgin sex doll, complete with a pop-able hymen! Oozing red lotion refills included, so every time you make sweet love stick it in, she’ll get fake blood all over your sheets.



Another virgin on eBay

I was wondering why this post, “The virgin on eBay” was so popular again. (As of right now, it’s in the top five highest ranked posts.) It’s because another woman has cashed in on the peculiar fetish to the tune of $32,000, or the equivalent in New Zealand currency.

Egypt calls for a ban of “Virginity kits”

The New York Times reports:

Conservative lawmakers have called for a ban on imports of a Chinese-made kit meant to help women fake their virginity. The Artificial Virginity Hymen kit, which is distributed by the Chinese company Gigimo and costs about $30, is intended to help newly married women fool their husbands into believing they are virgins, an essential marriage requirement for women in much of the Middle East, by leaking a blood-like substance when inserted and broken. Sheik Sayed Askar, a member of the parliamentary committee on religious affairs, demanded the government take responsibility for fighting the product, which he said would make it easier for women to give in to temptation.

Jiggawhat? Faking your virginity kits exist? It’s a sad world that we live in where there is a real market for kits that help women fake their oh so precious virginity.

oh and here’s a little picture for you all:

The virgin on eBay speaks

If for no other reason to have a balanced response to my commentary, I’d suggest reading “Natalie Dylan’s” full apologia:

Like most little girls, I was raised to believe that virginity is a sacred gift a woman should reserve for just the right man. But college taught me that this concept is just a tool to keep the status quo intact. Deflowering is historically oppressive—early European marriages began with a dowry, in which a father would sell his virginal daughter to the man whose family could offer the most agricultural wealth. Dads were basically their daughters’ pimps.

When I learned this, it became apparent to me that idealized virginity is just a tool to keep women in their place. But then I realized something else: if virginity is considered that valuable, what’s to stop me from benefiting from that? It is mine, after all. And the value of my chastity is one level on which men cannot compete with me. I decided to flip the equation, and turn my virginity into something that allows me to gain power and opportunity from men. I took the ancient notion that a woman’s virginity is priceless and used it as a vehicle for capitalism.

Are you rolling your eyes? I knew this experiment would bring me condemnation. But I’m not saying every forward-thinking person has to agree with what I’m doing. You should develop your own personal belief system—that’s exactly my point! For me, valuing virginity as sacred is simply not a concept I could embrace. But valuing virginity monetarily—now that’s a concept I could definitely get behind. I no longer view the selling of sex as wrong or immoral—my time at college showed me that I had too blindly accepted such arbitrary norms. And for what it’s worth, the winning bid won’t necessarily be the highest—I get to choose.

I still maintain Dylan is doing harm to a healthful account of human sexuality by perpetuating the value of virginity by commoditizing (sic) it. Few people will read or remember reading that Dylan’s project was the exploitation of the arbitrary worth attached to her virginity; more will remember that some man thought it was worth $3.8 million.

Holy shit

On an average day, this blog can expect between 80 and 150 hits. Last month, the highest number of daily readers we received was about 242; I think our all-time record was in the 400’s -500’s, back when Sarah Palin’s selection was announced. But for some reason, we’ve gotten over 800 hits on my post on “Natalie Dylan,” the California women’s study major auctioning off her virginity online. The resurgence of interest is apparently begat by recent news that bidding is currently at $3.7 million from some sleaze in Australia.

Our post is the number one Google hit for the query “virgin on eBay.”

The whole situation is kind of sad. In a selfish sort of way, my sadness is deepened at the knowledge of the little role I’m doing to publicize the phenomenon.

The virgin on eBay

From CBS13, though I’ve reposted the entire text of the article:

A Sacramento State grad is trying to make money the old fashioned way, by auctioning off her virginity to help pay for her graduate studies. 

Even if prostitution is “the world’s oldest profession“, predating even humanity, does every journalist have to make the same dismissive joke about it every damn time it’s written about?

And so far, bidding is up to $250,000.

The 21-year-old who is using the pseudonym Natalie Dylan for safety reasons is going through a legal brothel in Nevada to sell her virginity. Dylan says she’s already taken a polygraph test to prove her virginal status, and is also willing to undergo a medical exam.

Although the integrity of the hymen is no indicator of sexual history, and polygraphs can be fooled by wiggling your toes.

The auction will take place at the Bunny Ranch in Carson City, Nevada with bids coming in through their websiteOwner Dennis Hof tells CBS13 that eBay rejected the auction, so he’ll handle the entire process.
Hof says Dylan is a bright, beautiful young woman who’s going to consider a number of factors in her decision because she wants her first time to be a positive experience. “Natalie is a very smart girl. All she wants to do is get her master’s degree in family and marriage counseling and be a psychologist.  She’s selling her virginity to accomplish that,” Hof told CBS13. “She’s smart enough to sell it.  This is empowering her.”

Empowering? I’ll believe that when I hear it from her. (In my experience, articles about sex workers rarely contain quotes from sex workers.) Even if she were to claim empowerment from the experience, it is possible she could come to regret the decision, either for degradation of her image to herself or others, or unforeseen consequences of her decision. But such is always the risk of autonomy.

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